Abuse occurs when a person that is more powerful asserts their power over a weaker individual; domestic abuse is a form of abuse where the partner with more power tries to take control of the weaker partner. Listed here a only a few of the ways a partner may try assert control over another:
Verbal Abuse – Language is one of the weapons of aggression; it can be a means to hurt the partner verbally or in the form of written text. Verbal abuse is damaging to the victim’s self worth, self-esteem, and psychological health to the extent that it can degrade the victim’s mental and physical health. Verbal abuse can include: putting down, taunting, bullying, defaming, harassing, accusing, lying, berating, accusing, interrogating, blaming, name calling, yelling, threatening, and scolding.
Emotional or Mental Abuse – Like other forms of abuse, it’s prompted by the impulses of control and power. The aim is to systematically belittle the partner so that they lose their self-worth and so that the victim gives in to the abuser. The abusive partner can psychologically abuse their mate intentionally or subconsciously. It might continue for long periods of time or it can be sporadic. Abusive traits are defined by the US Government as inciting panic by bullying; threatening physical injury to the partner, the partner’s family or friends, their children; causing the destruction of property and pets; and/or forcing them to isolate themselves from friends, family, school or employment. Emotional or mental abuse can also involve yelling disparaging names to the partner. Psychological abuse is probably the best indicator of a partner’s odds of using physical abuse in marriage.
Economical Abuse – is the act of making the partner monetarily dependant on the abuser. The wife may be prevented by the husband to have access to the bank account so that she has to request money. She has to do what the husband says otherwise she will not receive any money. Some men make an allowance for the wife and even if the wife has her own job the husband may pick up their wives paycheck so that she doesn’t get the money directly from her employer. It is also possible that he can eventually persuade her into thinking that giving up her money is part of what a Christian union demands.
Sexual Abuse – In this form of abuse, the husband makes the wife do sexual acts that are demeaning or against her beliefs and reduces the her to a sex object. Some abusers go to the degree of physically abusing the sexual parts of her body or having extramarital relationships in order to make her feel unattractive. A guy may refuse his partner sex to punish her while he has sex with others to satisfy his sexual desires.
Isolation – This form of abuse focuses on restricting the mate’s accessibility to others who might have been able to prevent further abuse or to make the partner think that the abuser is the only person that will socialize with them. This allows the abuser to control the partner’s activities or monitor what the partner does outside of the home. An abuser who wants isolate the partner may force the family to move into a distant area where they can continue their abuse without anyone interfering.
Verbal abuse is the most typical form of maltreatment and women are often as guilty of doing it as much as men are. It reduces the partner’s dignity as well as reducing the self confidence of the sufferer, thus making him/her more easy to command. Plenty of people who verbally abuse their partners may feel inferior and want to feel superior to someone.
Physical Abuse – This really is the most violent kind of abuse and it is when the abuser inflicts trauma or pain on the victim through despicable acts like slapping, boxing, kicking, pulling hair, shoving, biting, choking, and hitting. The violent incidents might occur regularly or occasionally and may start with a verbal altercation that escalates into physical abuse. The assault is frequently followed by a period of calm during which the abuser tries to placate the partner and feigns remorse.
Although you will find instances where the female is the aggressor, physical abuse is usually perpetrated by male partners against females. It is the most damaging form of domestic violence and it costs the government a substantial amount of money each year in an attempt to prevent it. Some 2,000 to 4,000 women are beaten to death yearly. Battery is the greatest cause of injury to women, more than rapes, accidents, or muggings.
Spiritual Abuse – This is really a subtle kind of abuse where the abuser uses scripture to control their partner. For example, a verse may be used to say that women should submit completely and unquestioningly to their husband’s demands. The wife is refused the right to disagree about the interpretation of the verse under the pretext that the man is the leader of household and how he interprets the scripture is correct. This makes the spouse concede on matters she normally would have fought because she thinks it is God’s will.
If you or a loved one are enduring domestic abuse in Texas, prominent Houston divorce lawyer Matt Skillern of Skillern Firm recommends, “Run, do not walk, away from the situation. Notify the appropriate people, get the appropriate help, and ensure that you have experts on your team to make sure that you not only ensure your family’s physical and emotional safety, but also legal safety for the long term.” For more please see this article on getting help for abused and battered women.